Dating a two year younger guy
“It’s also important that girls advocate for what they want, whether it’s sexual or not. Despite how much you feel your partner loves and respects you in the individual relationship, we’re all influenced by broader societal norms.” Jessica Murphy of Apple Valley learned a hard lesson after her relationship with an older man didn’t end “happily ever after.” At 15, she met Devin, a 24-year-old, on a college tour.
They might be at a disadvantage because of their status. Being a naive teen, as Murphy put it, she fell for him. As the three years they were together went by, Jessica began to see how much her behavior had changed just to keep Devin.
Based on the formula, a 21-year-old could date someone as young as 17, an 18-year-old could be with a 16-year old, and a 16-year-old with a 15-year-old.
Having a partner who is much older or younger has become somewhat trendy in today’s celebrity-obsessed culture, perhaps even more so among young adults.
“Risks of forced or unwanted sex are higher when you have an older male partner.
“To be honest, if (Mia) never told me her age, I would have thought that she was close to the same age as me,” Bennett said.
But when the topic is broached, it’s important to make sure both voices are heard and that they understand each other well.
It’s not just one person deciding and the other goes along with it,” Meier said.
The two-year age gap pattern also shows up in adulthood, with the average age of marriage for women at 25 or 26, and for men at 27 or 28, said Ann Meier, an associate professor in the Department of Sociology at the University of Minnesota. Societal expectations tend to dictate that the older male-younger female dynamic will create one-sided pressure, and perhaps, submissiveness.
“In terms of it being problematic, there are two sides to the coin,” said Meier, who studies the effects of adolescent sex on mental health.