Dating advice and shyness
The good news is that there’s a way to avoid this and possibly turn things around. Not in a dramatic, mean-spirited or punishing sort of way. I have to imagine the sting is just as bad for a girl when she hears that message from a guy friend she has feelings for. Well, even if your guy isn’t “damaged goods,” I hope you read the last section because backing off is a truly be OK with being just friends right now.
It happens to guys and it happens to girls and oftentimes, it can cause more heartbreak than an actual breakup. Well maybe one (or all) of these scenarios apply to your situation. He’s cute, he’s funny, and when he’s around you, he completely let’s his guard down. and you know exactly what the other person is thinking. He’s the only guy that you’ve ever felt truly understands you and with whom you can truly be yourself. you can talk for hours or even just be with each other in silence…You get to see him as the man he truly is – an unguarded version of himself that he hides from the world and only seems to let you see. So why, in the midst of this seemingly perfect situation, aren’t you any more than friends?It’s amazing how quickly a man will get his act together when he believes he might lose his shot at something. Sure, these arrangements usually end up melting down (maybe in a week, a month or a year), but during that time he gets to postpone dealing with his issues and can numb his pain with a simple girl who doesn’t unearth any skeletons … 3) The new girl had the advantage of a fresh “mystique” – that is, he doesn’t know anything about her and she put up a dazzling image that completely seduced him.The reality of relationships is that for them to move forward, they need to deepen over time.And finally, if you have some gentlemanly qualities, the beautiful blond Swedish girls will be all over you.As my friend put it: Swedish blond bombshells may be tough and viking-like on the outside, but they are still soft, delicate women on the inside. PS – I’m well aware that this post constitutes a generalization. Please however comment on something more constructive.See, while you were listening to him sulk about his broken heart and smoothing his hair, new girl appeared out of nowhere as a limited-edition item. But the new girl who just entered the picture is completely fresh – he can act like whomever he wants to appear to be and she’ll accept that that’s who he is.She attracted him and in some way made it clear (usually without a word) that if he wants her, he needs to act now or lose his shot. hint) 2) He knows he can put up a front and the new girl will buy it… But with you, you Sometimes a guy just wants a vacation from himself and his problems.And part of deepening a relationship is knowing the other person more and more deeply and gaining a fuller understanding of who they are. But the dazzling new Cleopatra that stepped into the picture is a blank canvas – he can paint her up to be anything he wants to imagine that she is in his mind.The less he actually knows about her, the more he can fill in the gaps with his own fantasy.