Dating for the older person
Peter, who was 70 at the time, recounts the nerves of starting over again after many years without sex and said: “I can remember sitting on the sofa with Stella and discussing this and saying, well, I really don’t know whether anything works any more. The internet has made finding love so much easier, but this increased access to sex is leading to increased rates of sexually transmitted infections.In fact, STIs have doubled in 50-90-year-olds in the past 10 years.Joey is like almost half of all our respondents (46 per cent) who told us that sex is important to their lives.Despite many feeling liberated in themselves, many told us they didn’t feel like society was very approving of OAP sex.Connie, 83, from London has just signed up for a dating site, even though she can’t work a computer.
More and more people on Ok Cupid (and other sites such as Plenty of Fish (POF)) use two different profiles.As Nicola sends a smiley to a man called John who’s caught her grandma’s eye, Connie tells us that Nicola need not worry about her.“I have got my wits about me, I do know what it’s all about.” Stella and Peter met on e Harmony and got married a year ago, having both lost their long-term partners.David and Carole live opposite each other, having moved down to Hastings after their respective partners died. They see each other most days, but Carole says: “It’s more exciting seeing each other when you don’t see each other all the time.” David was keen to avoid the compromising involved by sharing each other’s space. But as well as offering the possibility of greater sexual fulfilment, the internet is also throwing up new challenges and dangers.“It’s the secret sex life of your parents and grandparents.” That’s what one 70-year-old woman in Somerset told Channel 4 News.For some women, it has only been in later years that they achieved orgasm for the first time. '” Having had conventional relationships in the past, lots of people we spoke to are choosing to have relationships on different terms today. Solange, 79, from Wales told us: “I might have been in my 40s when I had an inkling of what it was. Solange added: “My take on older men right now is that they’re looking for a housekeeper or a care-giver, neither of which roles I am prepared to take on.” And so living apart seems to be a growing trend among older people trying to keep things fresh. “You don’t want to be in a close, tight relationship again with all that involves, with all the sort of mundane things.” Throughout our research we have repeatedly heard how this second chance at love and sex was entirely unexpected. Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Tom Cruise and Kate Holmes are just a few of the many couple whose ages are far from each other.