Online dating and first email
One of my favorite lines, given to me from a colleague, is just using a person’s name with an exclamation point. ” is friendly without being creepy; it’s sort of personalized, but also takes zero effort.
Would I say this in front of my parents, or theirs? Here’s a good example, taken from my personal archives, to the right.
Instantly, I’d learned that this person had actually looked at my profile and was dorky enough to correctly identify the pokémon casually sitting on my bookshelf.
It demonstrates that they, too, are into this silly thing that might be a turnoff for others. I’m personally of the opinion that your best bet is an opening message clearly meant for the person you’re engaging with.
“Someone can have a fantastic date, but when they get an email [from a dating service] with three other matches,” says Maria Avgitidis, dating coach and founder of Agape Match in Midtown, “fear of missing out takes effect.” But it’s important that everyone is up front about dating other people.
“You have to be really clear on what you want,” says Lindsay Chrisler, a professional dating coach based in Hell’s Kitchen. “Everything goes down over text now, especially between millennials,” Manley says.