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There used to be a time when you had to choose from the ten eligible bachelors in your town, or rely on your social circle or family to meet someone (still the case in many places in the world).
In our sprawling city, it is not unthinkable that you could be on your phone one minute, and hooking up with a perfect stranger the next.
People stare at me wide eyed, “So, tell me, what’s it like??
” as though I am a modern day cupid (I’m certainly not… Our way of thinking and method alike have changed, and yet we expect the same results.
When and if we do settle down with someone (note I said settle down, not settle), even just for a while, we’re left with a niggling dissatisfaction, taunted by the question of what could have been.
Having so many fish in the sea has left us less inclined to commit and, once in a relationship, more likely to call it quits at the first sign of trouble.
People come with the expectation that they might meet someone, but not generally expecting to meet their future hubby/wife.However, this kind of self-commodification is unfortunately integral to our society.There has been a huge shift in the last 10 years towards freelancing, entrepreneurship and sole trading – we are the ‘slashie’ generation, after all – with creatives often having to run ten jobs just to make ends meet.Or hopping on the next flight to Spain, having eligible bachelor #342 meet you at the airport.A friend of mine recently went to South America with a girl he’d known for a week. We’re so set in this ‘live fast/die young’ mentality, that nothing is crazy anymore. In an effort to process this constant stream of new faces, we learn to pigeonhole.The internet provides a detachment that doesn’t just allow for this, it encourages it.We look at a person’s social media, and are lead to assume we know the whole person.It’s a coping mechanism, and it has scientific merit, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck.When we meet someone new we immediately judge them, often harshly.It’s a skill we utilise in every aspect of our lives; we are a brand and you want to be associated with us, have us on your team. Can you blame us for applying the same logic to our search for a lover?Our society gives you a grandstand, and if you get tongue tied, you get left behind.